For My Girls

Dear Phoebe on your 15th Birthday "Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!" 3 years from now, legally you will be an adult and as I look at you now, the beautiful young lady that you are - a real lady in every sense of the word, my heart bursts with so my joy!  My darling Phoebe, I often wonder if you REALLY are aware of how much I love you, of how proud I am to be called Phoebe's mom. I wonder if I have made it known to you, just how precious you are to me. I wonder if you know that there is nothing that you could ever do or say or be that would cause me love you less. I wonder if you know that I fell in love with you even before I physically saw you. I wonder if you know that apart from God, you are the ONE who taught me what love really is. The first time I felt you move inside my womb and while God was busy knitting you together in there, that was the very moment that my heart changed forever; knowing tha

In the past 2 years there have been moments of INTENSE difficulty. At times it felt as though I was being pushed beyond my limits... the day that the Lord gave me Job 38 & 39 was the day I stopped mumbling, stopped complaining; for after all, who am I to darken His counsel by words without knowledge?  I girded up my loins that day - like a (wo)man - and I considered once more His Sovereignty in my life; this time from a different perspective.  I found complete peace in Him that day and in the midst of the chaos surrounding me, I was able to surrender completely to His perfect will. "If it pleases you Lord, it pleases me." This became my motto as I went my way back into the chaos that seemed to be my life. Not much has changed in my circumstances, since that day. But I changed. He brought something out of me that could only possible surface through the furnace of refinement. He didn't make the burden lighter, the road easier or bring about the outside change th

According to the dictionary Faith is complete trust or confidence in someone or something ... a strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.        I believe that without faith it is impossible to achieve ANYTHING. If I didn't believe in myself I wouldn't be able to achieve anything. My mind couldn't possibly comprehend my capabilities to achieve anything without belief in self. But! Belief in self is so limiting ... if I put my belief in myself I will only be able to achieve so much but if I put my belief in God what I am able to achieve is limitless!   The word of God says that FAITH IS THE SUBSTANCE OF THINGS HOPED FOR, THE EVIDENCE OF THINGS UNSEEN. Faith gives substance to our hopes.   Supernatural events takes place in our lives when we exercise Faith in God!     Faith is an action. I wouldn't be where I am today without 2 things: Faith & the Grace of God. It is the grace of God th

Someone once told me that the legacy I leave my daughters not only consists of the situations that might cause them pain, but also in the capacity I build in them to be strong and resilient and that the hardest part of being a parent is seeing the impact of your choices in life; reverberate in the life of your child. To me there is no greater gift than that of being a woman and there is no greater responsibility than that of raising a one. As mothers we have to be aware that these little sponges are watching us so closely and eventually they will imitate what we do or at least some of what we do. The point being that we need to be conscious of the manner in which we are raising our daughter because it will have a major impact on the type of woman they become. Besides the list of ingredients it takes to at least to some of it right, the best thing we can do for our daughters are to be moms who PRAY... pray for them in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening! Pray for every

We all have a story to tell and I chose to share my story because I believe that my story is the story of millions of women in one form or another. South Africa has one of the highest levels of sexual violence against women in the world and the perception is that abuse is conducive to environments where there is oppression and poverty but my belief is that abuse of any kind exists WHERE LOVE IS NOT . I believe that the women of South Africa, Africa and all around the world will be empowered when they learn that abuse of any kind is No. 1 not acceptable; No. 2 not part of God’s divine plan for our lives and No. 3 not the end!  There are different forms of abuse; physical, emotional, econ om ical & sexual; and my message is th is : YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE IN THE BONDAGE OF ABUSE OF ANY KIND! If we just ha d the courage to be real about this issue, to talk about it openly and with emptha y and compassion - not with the attitude that it is not my problem or maybe if we don'