Hope in Love

There is nothing more beautiful than observing couples who have been together for a very long time. I'm talking married couples celebrating 20, 30, 40+ years of marriage. I love the way they look to one another with a love and adoration of each other that words cannot really adequatley express. On observing these loving couples who I admire and adore so much, when I look a little closer and ask what made their love so wonderful, they always start by telling me how much they struggled in former years. When you stop to listen to the stories of these adorable people, you are bound to be taken on a journey much like your typical romance film.
Almost all romantic movies are made up of similar basic elements. The main character of the film will be pursuing two different desires. One desire will always conflict with attaining true love. He or she will need to overcome some form of deception that will reveal the character's nemesis. What is really appealing in any romantic movie is h…

To My Daughter...

Dear Phoebe on your 15th Birthday

"Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!"

3 years from now, legally you will be an adult and as I look at you now, the beautiful young lady that you are - a real lady in every sense of the word, my heart bursts with so my joy! 
My darling Phoebe, I often wonder if you REALLY are aware of how much I love you, of how proud I am to be called Phoebe's mom. I wonder if I have made it known to you, just how precious you are to me. I wonder if you know that there is nothing that you could ever do or say or be that would cause me love you less. I wonder if you know that I fell in love with you even before I physically saw you. I wonder if you know that apart from God, you are the ONE who taught me what love really is. The first time I felt you move inside my womb and while God was busy knitting you together in there, that was the very moment that my heart changed forever; knowing that HE chose me to…



According to the dictionary Faith is complete trust or confidence in someone or something ... a strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.        I believe that without faith it is impossible to achieve ANYTHING. If I didn't believe in myself I wouldn't be able to achieve anything. My mind couldn't possibly comprehend my capabilities to achieve anything without belief in self. But! Belief in self is so limiting ... if I put my belief in myself I will only be able to achieve so much but if I put my belief in God what I am able to achieve is limitless! The word of God says that FAITH IS THE SUBSTANCE OF THINGS HOPED FOR, THE EVIDENCE OF THINGS UNSEEN. Faith gives substance to our hopes. Supernatural events takes place in our lives when we exercise Faith in God! Faith is an action. I wouldn't be where I am today without 2 things: Faith & the Grace of God. It is the grace of God that enabled me to overco…


Someone once told me that the legacy I leave my daughters not only consists of the situations that might cause them pain, but also in the capacity I build in them to be strong and resilient and that the hardest part of being a parent is seeing the impact of your choices in life; reverberate in the life of your child.

To me there is no greater gift than that of being a woman and there is no greater responsibility than that of raising a one. As mothers we have to be aware that these little sponges are watching us so closely and eventually they will imitate what we do or at least some of what we do. The point being that we need to be conscious of the manner in which we are raising our daughter because it will have a major impact on the type of woman they become.
Besides the list of ingredients it takes to at least to some of it right, the best thing we can do for our daughters are to be moms who PRAY... pray for them in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening! Pray for every area o…


We all have a story to tell and I chose to share my story because I believe that my story is the story of millions of women in one form or another. South Africa has one of the highest levels of sexual violence against women in the world and the perception is that abuse is conducive to environments where there is oppression and poverty but my belief is that abuse of any kind exists WHERE LOVE IS NOT. I believe that the women of South Africa, Africa and all around the world will be empowered when they learn that abuse of any kind is No. 1 not acceptable; No. 2 not part of God’s divine plan for our lives and No. 3 not the end! 

There are different forms of abuse; physical, emotional, economical & sexual; and my message is this: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE IN THE BONDAGE OF ABUSE OF ANY KIND!If we just had the courage to be real about this issue, to talk about it openly and with empthay and compassion - not with the attitude that it is not my problem or maybe if we don't talk about it,…